Archive | August 2013

Will the REAL You Please Step Forward?

How about it? Is the YOU that you are for you? Or is that YOU what you think someone expects?

Someone recently asked me why I didn’t put up with his crap (everyone else does). I told him that I’m at a point in my life where I’ve learned that I don’t need to do that.

who are youIt is so very important to go thru life being ourselves and not what we think others want us to be. It’s exhausting being one person for Group A, someone else for Group B, another for your spouse and one for yourself! Is the real you in there? Is the real you shared with anyone?

My first seizure was caused by a group of triggers: my blood sugar dramatically dropped and I was under a lot of family/work stress. Thinking back, that family/work stress thing was largely part my own fault. I was taking on a lot of things, and there were stresses I had no control over, but I thought I could take on everything and didn’t ask for help. I didn’t think anyone would understand, I didn’t think anyone would help. So I decided that I had to be some sort of wonder woman. Sure I can do it all.

Not so much.

Then when things calmed down I figured I could have different stresses to handle. I just knew I’d be OK.

Not so much that time either.

Then the third time (apparently I’m a slow learner) the stress was way more than I could handle, that wonder woman person just wasn’t willing to come out and play anymore. So, I had that record year of seizures.

Have I learned anything this time? God I hope so!

Even though my business isn’t doing as well as I’d like, I’m currently doing the job shopping thing. This time I’m looking for the right fit. Somewhere I can have some fun and still work hard. That is my work ethic – working hard. I have learned that I need to do this for ME! Yes, there will be side benefits for others, but I need to help me feel good about me. I need to be the best me I can be – and be happy in the process.

Let the REAL you come out and play! You can’t be anyone else – you are YOU for a reason.

So, how about YOU? Are you being the best YOU? Are you going thru life knowing that the best way to be good to yourself and others is to be the best YOU, you can be? I truly hope the answer is Yes, of course I am – and that it doesn’t take you as many times as it has me. Oh and for the record, no matter how much my Mom and Grandmother tried – I don’t like ruffles, many floral prints or many of the other “girly” things they thought I was suppose to like. So, why didn’t that non-conformity continue thru my life?

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Am I TOO Square?

Earlier this year I wrote a blog asking Is It Still Hip to Be Square? (Still wondering) That one I’m wondering about clothes and designers ideas of what I like.

Now I have a new question: Am I Too Square to Be Hip?

Yesterday we got an Ikea catalog in the mail – addressed to Current Resident. It’s nicely done and has 326 pages of all kinds of things. Well part way in to the thing – to page 157 – I still haven’t found anything I like. My husband had the same reaction.

Am I too square?

002The ideas they show for making your kitchen more functional are OK, but I really love what my husband did with our kitchen – I like it much better than the suggestions in the catalog. (He custom built every cabinet, laid the tile, put in the window, ran the plumbing, and yes that is wood flooring for the ceiling!) The ideas for the bathroom, interesting but I just don’t like the style. (Did a small child draw that design of a man and a woman for the curtain?) I’m not a fan of the dining room furniture either – a glass expandable table? We used to have a glass dining table, it was round on a bamboo base with bamboo chairs (Pier 1 years ago). But expandable? How do you safely store the glass inserts? It has clear acrylic chairs to go with – sorry, I really don’t want to slide during a meal. Some of the living room stuff is interesting. I do really like their idea of sectional furniture and that the covers are removable to be machine washed. But sadly I know me, I know I wouldn’t wrestle with the covers as much as they would need so I could wash them.

I guess I’m just a fan of “traditional” kitchens, bath, dining furniture, and living rooms. (OK, so my husband built all the stuff – including the dining room table but we bought the chairs – and we love what he did) We had a lot of fun with our first couch. It was a collection of four very BIG, over-sized cushions and husband made a rough wood frame for them – the only way to keep them in place. The only draw back to that couch – it was too comfy, it didn’t take long and you’d fall asleep! I’m just not a fan of contemporary furniture – especially since it goes in and out of style so quickly and doesn’t look comfortable to me.

Maybe I’m too much like our recliner sofa and loveseat: old, shifted stuffing and a bit frayed around the edges, but I’m comfy!