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I’m Chronologically How Old????

Dang, people’s kids are making me old!!!!

A friend of mine’s first child is going into the SIXTH GRADE. I worked with Jennifer while she was pregnant with her daughter and wondered how anyone could be sooooooooo sick during a pregnancy.

My Grand-Neighborette (GN) started PRE-SCHOOL today. I knew her Mom was pregnant before she would admit it. (Don’t ask me how I knew, I just did)

Nat-Bee 1Yesterday I walked over to visit my GN and her Mommy. I had to check out her hair cut – well OK, it was just a trim. After a couple a few minutes she ran to her room and came out with a gift for me. Simply saying “here Grand-Neighbor, this is for you.” It was that little bumblebee in the picture. I told her that I would put it on the frame on my desk that has her picture.

Over the years I have occasionally given her things from my heart (aside from her birthday) that I thought were important/great for her to have. Before her Christening I gave her the rosary my Great-Uncle brought from Jerusalem for my Christening (it’s made of rough pearls). When she was a few months old she was intrigued by the ceiling fan, so I bought a “gauzy” butterfly with beads hanging from it. (Still in her room) Recently, since she’ll be starting dance lessons, I bought her a ballerina. She took it to her room to hang on a hook by her bed. That night when Daddy got home she told him where to move the hook.

Her Mommy – like a few parents I know – calls her “my little monster.” Well, GN does have a definite way about her and like most small children has no problem speaking her mind. I hope she keeps that, it could be a challenge for her in life, but honesty is a good quality. And GN is very sweet when she sees my husband and/or me and comes running up to give us a hug. Is it because she knows she’ll be scooped up and tickled/spun around? No, not completely.

So, when did this age thing happen? I mean really, when did I become of an age I could be a grand mother??? I sure don’t feel I could be that old…well OK my knees do ache, but then since I was a kid I’ve had issues with them, so what do they know?

It doesn’t seem like it’s been 22 years since I was diagnosed with epilepsy – my first seizure. Then again, it really doesn’t seem like it’s only been six years since my last seizure either. Telling people how old I am (chronologically) really doesn’t bother me – no one believes me anyway (I’m 54). But I don’t feel I’m that age, which by the way when I was a kid in school I didn’t think that number was old – honest! Other kids thought it was really old to be 54. I mean some of my classmates panicked about how old we’d be when the new millennium arrived. I mean really, for some of the kids (like me) our grand parents were that old!

To both of those little girls – I wish them a wonderful life and that positive things go their way. Just what is 54 suppose to feel like anyway???

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Turning 20 is Turning Old(?!)

I was told last night by a 19 year old: “Tomorrow is my birthday and I’ll be 20.” This is a good thing, when I wished her a happy birthday she had a strange reaction.  She wasn’t happy – “I’m getting OLD” I said “Child, please you’re just getting started!” “Yeah but it’s been three years since I was 17 and look at where I am!” I told her “You will always have MORE learning in life, if you find this situation as bad – learn from it! You can’t expect to be at the BEST in your life right now – because you’ll always be evolving. Relax and 20 isn’t old! Oh and another thing…don’t EVER say that to someone who’s 53.”

turning 20That whole conversation (to me) was disheartening. To have a kid feel that way about life, should I have told her any of my life changes? I posted the above statement on my facebook page and got some great feedback/comments and I will share them here. I will not use the names of the people making the comments, just their first initial.

B: I changed my entire direction when I was 40.
L: Don’t ever say that to anyone who is 62. Like B, I find myself changing directions when there is something I need or want to change. Life really is an adventure and the new year always gives you a blank sheet to write upon, but in reality, each day is a new blank sheet to do with what you will…do well, because you have exchanged a day of your life for it…make it count. Liz, I had to smile at your post because I remember being in such a hurry to conquer the world… wish I had a mentor like you to have given me the advice you did to the young lady.
T: What can a 78 “AWAKE! ALERT! ALIVE! & ENTHUSIASTIC ONE” remark about your comments – B, L and Liz LaClair?…really curious!…. ‘Cuz don’t know what to say.
Me: T, every person has something great to add to another person through their experiences in life and I am sure you could teach L, B and me things that we did not know.
J: Oh Liz, that ain’t even right.
T: J, now I’m more tongue-tied! Maybe, reaching this age tires one to recite life’s litany anymore…having been a mentor-coach, etc., for decades now and just getting set to retire from active Toastmaster volunteer work!
B: T, I have a friend that is 92 and still shows up every Sunday for the ballroom dance practice my wife and I run. He remains both physically and mentally alert by constantly giving of his knowledge and skills to others. He is my role model. At 78 you have many productive years yet if you chose to use them in that manner.
Me: It concerns me that she is from a generation that was told everyone is equal (as in there are no “winners” or “losers”). That’s not how real life works. Her generation (and the ones that follow) will have a very hard time facing life when they’re taught everything is fair and equal. I hope she’s just one in a large group of kids. Just have to reach out to her. I should have told her that I’ve changed my life path a few times already. I definitely haven’t done what I set out to do – the world hasn’t been conquered. Thanks for your compliment L! T, J was referring to the teenager’s attitude – that’s what isn’t right.
J: That’s it Liz! The girl isn’t even of legal drinking age yet… Geez
T: Oh! …Liz, yes…the thinking of the youth today’s rather not focused as well as we elders were in our time back then…(of course for you guys not too long ago yet except for me. hehehe!)…especially those unfortunate ones who are left without guidance and proper counseling!

WOW! It seems that I’m not far off in my thinking: the changes “for the better” (?) in how parents punish children for misdeeds, telling children that no one is better than anyone else (we’re all equals) doesn’t work. No, I don’t have children – but I do have eyes and common sense. If a child isn’t punished starting at an early age for misdeeds, how will they learn acceptable behavior? Especially in public. I know I can’t be the only person “out there” who thinks are you kidding me? why is that kid’s parents allowing him/her to do that??!!! How else can anyone learn to take responsibility for their OWN actions?

Teaching kids that there aren’t any “winners” or “losers” – a prime/easy example: no strikeouts in a baseball game. Why?? “Because we don’t want to lower the little tyke’s self-esteem.” Huh? How will that child ever grow up and be prepared for the real world. No one will pat you on the head and say “there, there, that’s OK – you’re doing good, it’s OK that your oops cost the company thousands of dollars.”

I don’t believe that I’m being harsh. I’m not saying I had a horrible childhood because my parents believed in corporal punishment, because that would be a lie. We all need to know that we will always (if we’re smart) be learning and that failure in any form is a type of learning. I will never say that I’m perfect. PUL-EEZE! I’m no where near that level. But if I can offer advice, then I will, it’s up to who ever whether or not they accept it.

And to my young friend? All I can say is: life’s too short to worry/stress over the little shit, get over yourself and when you find your life isn’t going the way you want, change it! OR, follow that path and see where it takes you – it could be the better path.

(Oops, large soap box today. Picture from Google images)