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Have You Hugged a Nurse Lately?

doctors and nursesOK, a simple question posted on facebook really got me wondering: Do you think nurses have a love hate relationship with nursing?

My first comment: I’m not a nurse, but I have been around nurses who do have a love/hate relationship with their career. Then there are the nurses who spend some time working in a hospital then (seem to) run for a desk job – in nursing.

The reply: Great observation – it is true! Thanks for your comment!

My second comment: I do have to say: nurses have a thankless job. When I was in the hospital, I thanked and joked with every nurse that came in my room. One nurse told me she was amazed that I would do that “I can imagine the pain you’re in, how can you have such a great personality and ask how I’M doing?” Hearing that made me feel bad – why weren’t more patients being nice to their nurses?

The reply: Liz LaClair this says a lot about you! You let your light shine!

In 2007, I was in Henry Ford Hospital and tested (twice – about a month each time) for my epilepsy, with the second test having the electrodes directly on my brain – the pain part. I was always nice to my nurses and techs. It’s a simple life belief: life’s too short, have to joke and have fun with others. My husband would bake goodies for me, like banana bread mini loaves. I made sure he brought enough so I could share with my nurses. I apologized to one of my nurses after she told me I scared her. She told me she’d never been around a patient who stopped breathing during a seizure. After I calmed her down – she said she was embarrassed about her reaction – she finally laughed, shook her finger at me and told me to never do that to her again!!

When my husband was in Beaumont for both of his cancer surgeries, the nurses all loved him. Even though he was in pain after surgery, he was joking with his nurses. One of his male nurses was a (tad) embarrassed to be awarded The Daisy – it’s a top award for nurses at Beaumont. His embarrassment dealt with his being called a Daisy. I told him that in French (William Beaumont – founder – was French) daisy is marguerite. He laughed and said that wouldn’t be any better, then explained what DAISY meant.

Nurses have a LOT of work to do, they don’t always get their breaks when they should and we all expect a lot from them. When you’re sick and in the hospital (the last place you really want to be), nurses are the ones (of the medical staff) who spend the most time with you. So, why wouldn’t you be good to them?

Oh, as for that hugging a nurse question. There is one nurse I’d like to hug (she’s a new nurse – she passed her NCLEX just yesterday – 7/25/13). My great-niece Tiffany lives on the other side of the state and I haven’t seen her in a while, but I do check on her via her facebook posts!

Be Yourself – Ain’t Nobody Perfect

If you’re lucky someone – hopefully multiple someone’s – told you, you’re pretty/cute/adorable/good looking/amazing. Especially when you were a kid growing up, this is very important. As we all know self-esteem can be a very fragile thing.

I found an article posted on facebook, discussing a model’s perspective on body perfection. The message is very important: NO ONE is perfect. It shows the results of airbrushing a photo, a before and after thing.

Except in a couple of cases where the photo itself had flaws (the color/tone/balance was off) none of these people have flaws and looked better, more natural before the airbrushing (well, Madonna was having a bad day). Society and media have all told us what is considered beautiful, perfect. For actors, if you don’t have straight teeth, straight nose and little to no blemishes, you can get the lead roles, otherwise you get the “character” roles. You know, the character you know not to trust as soon as they appear in the scene. And it’s the same actor over and over in this type of role.

bald barbieOccasionally Dove will put out a promotion that everyone is beautiful no matter what their body shape is. Mattel came out with a Barbie – only for little girls with cancer – that was bald. These things need to happen more than they do. We all need positive reinforcement.

We all need to be told we’re wonderful, smart, amazing, beautiful, glorious, etc. But the trick is, we all need to be able to accept these compliments. Don’t brush them away. Don’t think that someone is simply trying to get on your good side. Accept the compliment as genuine.

Where is this coming from? Well, that link set me on this road today. You see, I have always (at least since I was 3) thought I was decidedly not pretty. My husband says I’m pretty and sometimes tells me I’m beautiful – even after my surgery and that horrible scar was quite noticeable. What’s sad? I don’t always believe him, so he’s gotten to a point where he doesn’t say it as often.

Why would anyone condition someone they love not to give them compliments???

So, no matter how we look – crooked teeth and all – we, each and every one of us, are beautiful. Beauty isn’t just skin deep – it’s inside each of us, we just have to let it shine!

Your Health is Important

As I have stated before, I have epilepsy. In 2007 I underwent surgery placing electrodes directly on my brain to try to determine just where the seizures originate. Turned out there were either too many locations firing all at one time – or too far inside to safely perform any surgery.

The amazing news, I apparently am one of those rare people that the act of opening the skull and changing the environment of the brain has made quite a difference. I’ve been seizure-free since then.

But like anyone (perhaps you know yourself) who’s broken a bone can tell you, every time the weather changes the bone hurts where the break was. In my case I get some nasty skull aches – the vibration from chewing hurts, even smiling/laughing hurts. Then if my sinuses are also affected – I’m really in trouble! When that happens I do my best to stay away from people. Why? Because I have a very short tolerance level. I know that I will say or do something I will regret later.

In life that’s bad. For a business?? Worse! One cannot have quality client relations when suffering through a day I just described. Chances are your clients don’t know your medical history, why would/should they? Normally I can perform my work for my business without issue. This kind of debilitating pain is comparable to someone with chronic migraines. This is the kind of situation that if one can work around the situation and not have contact with people (but can still work – like I can), then this is actually a good thing. However, I also know from experience that this type of pain can be very distracting – it’s hard to think to just do “normal, everyday” things and you may not be able to work at all. I’ve been there too (just the other day in fact).

So, dear reader when it’s possible, please take the opportunity to take care of your health. When you can, rest. Do not do or say something that could turn around and “bite you in the butt” at a later date. You’re already stressing over a side-effect of your health, don’t set yourself up to make your health worse. As in my case, if I were to stress too much I could cause a seizure. I have been blessed with four seizure-free years; I do not ever want to experience another seizure. Ever.

Know your limits and work within them – but don’t let them hold you back! Don’t ever let someone tell you that you can’t do a thing because of your health. You know your body. You know what you can get away with. Do not feel sorry for yourself and lock yourself away – that solves nothing and only makes things worse.